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Good Day Crew!
Well, sometimes your’re the bug and sometimes your’re the windshield. Has of today, me and the ol’ lady are no longer one. I have had enough of her bullshit, time for her to pound sand. Not going to lie it does hurt, but at some point one needs to make a decision. For the past 10 years, I been the “bread winner”, I was more than happy to let her stay at home, and take care of the household. I found out that she was not taking care of medical bills, and ran up my credit cards and decided it was not important to pay them.
So now, need to figure a bunch of shit out, cry a tear in beer LOL, and figure out what to do with all this extra room I am going to have…..
I will post some updates, has things play out….
-Steven
sorry to hear…good luck…….
Steven, I’m really sorry to hear that. Keep the faith bro. Find somebody to talk to outside of work. Now’s the time when you find out who your real friends are. Rely on them and family.
Hate to hear that man. You know the crew has your back if you need to blow off some steam.
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WigWagWorkshop wrote:
Good Day Crew!
Well, sometimes your’re the bug and sometimes your’re the windshield. Has of today, me and the ol’ lady are no longer one. I have had enough of her bullshit, time for her to pound sand. Not going to lie it does hurt, but at some point one needs to make a decision. For the past 10 years, I been the “bread winner”, I was more than happy to let her stay at home, and take care of the household. I found out that she was not taking care of medical bills, and ran up my credit cards and decided it was not important to pay them.
So now, need to figure a bunch of shit out, cry a tear in beer LOL, and figure out what to do with all this extra room I am going to have…..
I will post some updates, has things play out….
-Steven
Good luck to you brother, we’re all here for ya, sounds like you need some time with a sawzall and a sledge hammer! lol
Hopefully the accounts are in her name and not yours, otherwise that’s what really grinds my gears.
chrisk wrote:
Steven, I’m really sorry to hear that. Keep the faith bro. Find somebody to talk to outside of work. Now’s the time when you find out who your real friends are. Rely on them and family.
Yeah, Unfortunately I really don’t have any true friends anymore, once I moved out here to Ohio, I lost touch with the couple friends I did have.
PROTOOLNUT wrote:
Running up credit cards, and not paying them, that = ultimate douchery. I have a motto, use your brain, don’t be a douche, she’s clearly not keeping it real with her douchery behavior. I am sorry to hear about this, but knowing what know, I have to agree with your decision. I am in credit debt as well, but I am being responsible making payments. I couldn’t live with myself if I racked up multiple credit card debt and not paid it. She clearly thinks she’s the queen of sheba, yeah well, the queen is about to be kicked out on her ass. lol
Well unfortunately they were in my name. When I first met her, she was living in a shit-hole run downed apartment working a crappy retail job. We moved in together in a better apartment, but a not so good neighborhood out of my desperation to get her out of her current apartment. My credit is fucked, but the house is mine (well the banks) until I pay it off LOL. Bottom line, I took her from living in shit, to a beautiful house, stability, let her stay at home to concentrate on her son that has a ton of mental issues, and was always an honest guy that stayed at home in his workshop, never went out to taverns coming home drunk, or cheating.
kruton wrote:
Hate to hear that man. You know the crew has your back if you need to blow off some steam.
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Thanks Man! I am a mellow guy, just going to pound some of my private stock top shelf bourbon, watch the local election results, and crank some tunage…..
Man bro sorry to hear about that man I hope ur doing ok and like the guys already said keep faith an know that the crews here for u man.
Sorry to hear about your bump in the road man……I think you need to treat your self to a new tool 🙂
jbw55 wrote:
Sorry to hear about your bump in the road man……I think you need to treat your self to a new tool 🙂
but not a chain saw…..
Hard to hear things like that man. Keep your chin up and turn the page.
comp56 wrote:
but not a chain saw…..
LOL, but that was next on my list! After seeing the awesome coverage of GIE by TIA, the new battery powered chainsaws are at the top of my list.
Poisonfangs85 wrote:
Hard to hear things like that man. Keep your chin up and turn the page.
Already measuring one of the bedrooms for my new Model Railroad Layout.
Bigmikez wrote:
Man bro sorry to hear about that man I hope ur doing ok and like the guys already said keep faith an know that the crews here for u man.
Well, 90/10 – 90% to the positive.
WigWagWorkshop wrote:
Already measuring one of the bedrooms for my new Model Railroad Layout.
Sounds like instead of turning the page ur just burning that book :).
Sorry to hear that Steven. Just try to keep your head and know the crew here for you.
Mondo1310 wrote:
Sorry to hear that Steven. Just try to keep your head and know the crew here for you.
Thanks Mondo! I know it will be rough for a bit, when one has a certain routine for 10 years it takes a bit to make a new routine
Getting screwed over credit card debt sucks, but in the scheme of things it’s just money; just keep in mind things could be much worse. You’ve seen her true colors, better now than later…
That’s awful, man. I can’t give you any real advice, but if you need to talk to someone, we’re always open.
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Sorry brother, no matter the reason it can’t be easy. I hope you don’t live in California, although I would like to check out your shop… Out here she would own the house.
I think you should rent that extra room to a Veteran attending college. But I’m biased, I was homeless for a bit while attending college the first year.
In the end just keep doing the things that make you happy and the rest will fall into place. Go build something and post some more videos.
One of my Co-Workers went through a very similar situation 5 years ago. He got a call one day from a bill collector about a credit card bill he didn’t owe, or so he thought. Come to find out, his stay at home wife ran up $60,000 on a credit card he knew nothing about. She was having the bill mailed to a friends house. Had absolutely nothing to show for it either.
Come to find out, about half of it was spent ordering lortab from Mexico, the rest was spent on spa days for her and a couple of her friends, and she’s spend over $10,000 on designer purses. I’d like to think that’s an obscene amour, but I could spent that on tools before daylight, so I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt there.
They had 4 kids and he got raped in the divorce. After he paid child support, the house & car payment, and all the other shit he was ordered to pay, he had $36 left to live on. He lived in an old camper in his mom’s yard for about a year. Eventually she fucked up though. She was on pills, the kids missed 40 days of school, she was dating an ex-con, and he ended up with the kids.
Good luck brother. I certainly hope all goes well for you.
Sorry to hear this WigWag, keep the faith brother
Well I am happy it’s under $10,000, and the house is 100% mine – that is loan to the bank lol. The hardest thing I have deal with is, I became kind of a recluse when we got together, and I don’t have any close friends here, has I just moved here from another state, and never really socialized much.
funny how in North America, if a husband and wife split the wife gets usually 50% or more…….back in the old country……Italy in my case if the same thing happens the husband decides regardless of what happened…..
Holy. Fucking. Shit. I’ve heard somebad stories but 60K on lortab and spas… And she didn’t even get charged by illegally ordering lortab until after the fact? I swear, shit like that is what makes me question living in the US. $36… Atrocious.Conductor562 wrote:
One of my Co-Workers went through a very similar situation 5 years ago. He got a call one day from a bill collector about a credit card bill he didn’t owe, or so he thought. Come to find out, his stay at home wife ran up $60,000 on a credit card he knew nothing about. She was having the bill mailed to a friends house. Had absolutely nothing to show for it either.
Come to find out, about half of it was spent ordering lortab from Mexico, the rest was spent on spa days for her and a couple of her friends, and she’s spend over $10,000 on designer purses. I’d like to think that’s an obscene amour, but I could spent that on tools before daylight, so I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt there.
They had 4 kids and he got raped in the divorce. After he paid child support, the house & car payment, and all the other shit he was ordered to pay, he had $36 left to live on. He lived in an old camper in his mom’s yard for about a year. Eventually she fucked up though. She was on pills, the kids missed 40 days of school, she was dating an ex-con, and he ended up with the kids.
Good luck brother. I certainly hope all goes well for you.
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optimistspencer wrote:
Holy. Fucking. Shit. I’ve heard somebad stories but 60K on lortab and spas… And she didn’t even get charged by illegally ordering lortab until after the fact? I swear, shit like that is what makes me question living in the US. $36… Atrocious.
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Yea, tell me about it, and SHE STILL GOT CUSTODY OF THE KIDS!!!
It worked out for him, but it was a tough row to hoe for awhile.
Conductor562 wrote:
One of my Co-Workers went through a very similar situation 5 years ago. He got a call one day from a bill collector about a credit card bill he didn’t owe, or so he thought. Come to find out, his stay at home wife ran up $60,000 on a credit card he knew nothing about. She was having the bill mailed to a friends house. Had absolutely nothing to show for it either.
Come to find out, about half of it was spent ordering lortab from Mexico, the rest was spent on spa days for her and a couple of her friends, and she’s spend over $10,000 on designer purses. I’d like to think that’s an obscene amour, but I could spent that on tools before daylight, so I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt there.
They had 4 kids and he got raped in the divorce. After he paid child support, the house & car payment, and all the other shit he was ordered to pay, he had $36 left to live on. He lived in an old camper in his mom’s yard for about a year. Eventually she fucked up though. She was on pills, the kids missed 40 days of school, she was dating an ex-con, and he ended up with the kids.
Good luck brother. I certainly hope all goes well for you.
Better man than me, I’d be all over CNN…channeling the kind of revenge Killdozer brings to mind.
in most cases it is not always one person’s fault…….there are always 2 sides to a story
comp56 wrote:
in most cases it is not always one person’s fault…….there are always 2 sides to a story
Very true. But women are always the crazy one of the pair. That never changes.
This should be a quote somewhere on the forum that never goes away! Preach on brother!Conductor562 wrote:
Very true. But women are always the crazy one of the pair. That never changes.
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That’s tough, can’t say I haven’t been there myself. It’s a hard thing to overcome but as they say time heals all wounds and it pretty much does. By this time next year your life will be good and you will be healed and in a better place and you will be thinking “how did I ever get in that mess”. Good luck, and it will all work out for you.
comp56 wrote:
in most cases it is not always one person’s fault…….there are always 2 sides to a story
Very true, not saying I was perfect, I have some faults…. I am guy LOL.
Been there done that myself in the past,best thing i ever did because my current wife is awesome. Been remarried 7 years now and its been the best. Take your time to be you and keep on going bro.
Conductor562 wrote:
Very true. But women are always the crazy one of the pair. That never changes.
For some unknown reason I’m attracted to crazy woman.The first wife was boarded line insane but we had a blast up till the day she passed away. I’ve been with my second wife for 20 years now 11 of them married. On the crazy scale 1 – 10 she would rate a 9
Hmmm, with all the latest forum changes going on, maybe we should start a relationship support group category. Red Green had one at the possum lodge…. Seriously though, I am hammered and in good spirits..